tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post2176815909485138162..comments2024-03-02T14:54:21.802-05:00Comments on The happily ever after . . .: Construction ZoneChristinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00420773211895134710noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-2388782610452017462008-10-21T07:53:00.000-04:002008-10-21T07:53:00.000-04:00How exciting! Thanks for putting up some pics. I a...How exciting! Thanks for putting up some pics. I absolutely love to follow along with home improvement projects.<BR/><BR/>*I feel a little guilty about having such a decadent master bedroom like this, but at the same time, I think my husband and I really need it.*<BR/><BR/>NEVER feel guilty! You all are doing a wonderful thing being there for your FIL; you and your husband deserve your own little retreat.<BR/><BR/>I agree about nursing homes. I think some provide some genuinely loving and special care, but there's no comparison if family is able to be there for an elderly family member in their home.<BR/><BR/>Can't wait to see some ore pics! Good luck with everything. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-89910805366652665652008-10-20T17:50:00.000-04:002008-10-20T17:50:00.000-04:00OMG your house is so awesome Christine, and with t...OMG your house is so awesome Christine, and with the extra rooms it will be even better. I love that you are taking care of father-in-law. so sweet of you, is not everyone that would do it , he is very lucky indeed.Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17051732778079285105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-66480304784228120692008-10-20T12:36:00.000-04:002008-10-20T12:36:00.000-04:00I think the construction is going great!I've said ...I think the construction is going great!<BR/><BR/>I've said it before, but I'll say it again - you are amazing! I think it's wonderful that you all have taken in your FIL and you're children have been so great with all the changes. You've raised them well.<BR/><BR/>I also think it's fabulous that you are building your FIL a room of his own where he can be more independent - that's so important!<BR/><BR/>The house is gonna be great! (and I'm extremely jealous of what your bedroom will be like after it's done! lol)Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05320961506471746567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-82591438568791931082008-10-20T04:12:00.000-04:002008-10-20T04:12:00.000-04:00It looks like there's a lot of work ahead of you a...It looks like there's a lot of work ahead of you all (more than re-finishing the hardwood floors *g*) but in the end, it'll be totally worth it. I mean, you nearly double your space and your FIL will have his own room on the first floor, eliminating the worry about the stairs. That'll help a lot.<BR/><BR/>My mother took care of her mother. My grandmother had her room(s) on the second floor in the house, and the stairs were a constant worry later because she still wanted to use them on her own and didn't want to bother others asking for help when she clearly needed assistance. She wanted to be independent. So like you, my mother didn't want to leave the house for longer periods of time.<BR/><BR/>Don't feel guilty about your own "decadent" bedroom. When I learned one thing from seeing my mother taking care of her mother, it's that you must not forget yourself, that you need time and space for yourself. You and your husband deserve it.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing the story about your FIL and the pictures and all the best for the renovations (and everything else). Always think about what you'll have in a couple of months!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-54193844913070968762008-10-20T00:05:00.000-04:002008-10-20T00:05:00.000-04:00Jace :: Thank you so much for validating my need f...Jace :: Thank you so much for validating my need for a decadent bedroom. I can't wait! <BR/><BR/>Azteclady :: Thank you! <BR/><BR/>Orannia :: Thanks, and yes, it is going to be extra challenging doing this addition when it's so cold. We're switching heating systems, too.... so I don't know how that's going to work out.<BR/><BR/>DarlingDiva :: Thanks! :) <BR/><BR/>Phyl :: Thank you! Do you have a recommendation for a crock pot? Brand, model type, size, anything? I'm normally very appliance and gadget oriented, but a crock pot is something I've never explored before.<BR/><BR/>Brie :: Thank you and I think you're right when you say that everyone in this equation is lucky. :)<BR/><BR/>Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement AND for sharing my excitement for this project! You're the best! :)Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00420773211895134710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-28942594112033184792008-10-19T23:57:00.000-04:002008-10-19T23:57:00.000-04:00Amy C :: I'm so excited to be able to have room fo...Amy C :: I'm so excited to be able to have room for out of town guests looking to tour NYC for a long weekend when this addition is finished. ;) <BR/><BR/>Wendy :: Thanks! :) <BR/><BR/>Lea :: Thanks for the kind words. I'm going to be lost without my kitchen! I plan on buying a crock pot very soon! <BR/><BR/>Katiebabs :: Thanks! By the time you come over again, there may even be a roof over the new space!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00420773211895134710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-33052675796162315032008-10-19T23:48:00.000-04:002008-10-19T23:48:00.000-04:00Lori :: I hope your mom at least lives close by th...Lori :: I hope your mom at least lives close by that you can easily check up on her and help out when she needs it. Does she at least know when to ask for help? My in-laws used to ask for our help with trivial stuff, then NOT call on us for serious issues. It was very frustrating.<BR/><BR/>little_alys :: You are so wise for your young years, my friend. I've already been in tears a few times over this project and you're so right about my father-in-law wanting to be as independent as possible. Which I think is absolutely a good thing, but sometimes it interferes with his judgement about what he is truly capable of doing. <BR/><BR/><I>I think blogs is very much like hanging out with friends. Some things you just don't want family to know. ;)</I> <BR/><BR/>Isn't that the truth! <BR/><BR/><I>You're the coolest and nicest rocket scientist I know. :D</I><BR/><BR/>Thank you!!! ... but, um... I'm probably the <B>only </B> rocket scientist you know. o_0Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00420773211895134710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-3342124415561812252008-10-19T17:10:00.000-04:002008-10-19T17:10:00.000-04:00I loved your story about your FIL. I would say tha...I loved your story about your FIL. I would say that he's lucky to have you all, but I think that everyone in this equation is lucky.<BR/><BR/>Judging from the pics-- things look to be going well. Thanks for sharing. :)Briehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13303100605089813253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-38678343805820272262008-10-19T16:36:00.000-04:002008-10-19T16:36:00.000-04:00Very interesting, Christine! It'll be an adventure...Very interesting, Christine! It'll be an adventure for the next little while, but so worth it for you. My neighbor did something similar and she's never regretted it. Good luck staying sane!<BR/><BR/>And, yes, go get that crockpot :-)Phylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14665665401551658932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-23202777029798383302008-10-19T15:40:00.000-04:002008-10-19T15:40:00.000-04:00All the best with the rennovations Christine! It c...All the best with the rennovations Christine! It can't be easy living with all that upheaval, especially going into winter.<BR/><BR/>And I really admire you and your family. Looking after an elderly or infirm relative isn't easy (speaking from experience).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-26021750452736752712008-10-19T14:44:00.000-04:002008-10-19T14:44:00.000-04:00Wow!!! things are really coming along. I am so ver...Wow!!! things are really coming along. I am so very excited for you. Your FIL is looking good. <BR/><BR/>Hugs and kisses to the family<BR/>NancyNancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13905618043044592932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-48817462426532218922008-10-19T13:49:00.000-04:002008-10-19T13:49:00.000-04:00Big hurrah! and sending good wishes for smooth sai...Big hurrah! and sending good wishes for smooth sailing.<BR/><BR/>You guys so deserve it!aztecladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14857872357667370906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-64145287397073694842008-10-19T13:09:00.000-04:002008-10-19T13:09:00.000-04:00Hey Christine, thanks for sharing the story and pi...Hey Christine, thanks for sharing the story and pics. I'm touched by your father-in-law's story. It's so great that he has your family to take care of him now. You SO deserve a bigger house and yeah, the decadent bedroom. ;-)Jacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13028385307133861760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-3447155735806297722008-10-19T12:38:00.000-04:002008-10-19T12:38:00.000-04:00WOW, since the last time I was at your house, aka ...WOW, since the last time I was at your house, aka the fabu b-day party, there has been a lot of process!!<BR/>I am really in awe of you, your hubby and the girls for all they do for your father-in-law. You dedication and love for him really shows. I hope you realize that everything you do is appreciated and you deserve multiple pats on your back :DKT Granthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15958121742156171756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-43744084536126990262008-10-19T11:31:00.000-04:002008-10-19T11:31:00.000-04:00Christine: It is so wonderful that you have accomo...Christine: <BR/><BR/>It is so wonderful that you have accomodated your father-in-law. He sounds like a delightful gentleman and I'm sure appreciates the fact you and your husband have taken him in. <BR/><BR/>Renovations are very stressful, especially when a kitchen is under construction. Our children were little when we last remodeled our kitchen and I took them to stay with a relative for a few days. I find the kitchen is pretty much the centre of family life. <BR/><BR/>All the best.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11521584458356470972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-4109814372905377312008-10-19T10:45:00.000-04:002008-10-19T10:45:00.000-04:00Wow, big project there! the results will be wonder...Wow, big project there! the results will be wonderful, have fun! :)Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14467070028688210481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-34376465945253937502008-10-19T07:25:00.000-04:002008-10-19T07:25:00.000-04:00Definitely a better way to spend your fil's retire...Definitely a better way to spend your fil's retirement than on nursing homes. They charge ridiculous amounts and he would not get the same loving care that he would get from his family. It warms my heart to know you and your husband allow him that peace in your home. A friend of mine tried with her elderly father. But in the end, she really had no choice but to place him back in a nursing home. She is not in the best of health herself and it made it very difficult for her. But I know if she could, he'd still be with her too.<BR/><BR/>Almost doubling your living space! That so totally rocks! You may have went through some aggravation to get where you are now, but it'll be so worth it in the end, even if you can't cook normal holiday meals. It makes it even more memorable when you think back on this year! And what's life without those memories :).Amy Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12832983748006739171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-87591604881390926442008-10-19T04:15:00.001-04:002008-10-19T04:15:00.001-04:00P.S. Your family's very lucky to have you. ^_^P.S. Your family's very lucky to have you. ^_^little alyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06526474330761827118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-77401861277685435992008-10-19T04:15:00.000-04:002008-10-19T04:15:00.000-04:00I think this will be awesome for you and the entir...I think this will be awesome for you and the entire family. :D <BR/>This is one of those big family projects where it'll have tons of headaches, disagreements, short tempers, but ultimately fun and benefits for all.<BR/><BR/>It's really nice and considerate to make the downstairs bedroom for your father-in-law. If he's anything like my asian grandparents, then despite being elderly, having health problems, and usually in need of assistence, they still prefer to be able to do certain things themselves. Independent to the bone.<BR/><BR/>I think blogs is very much like hanging out with friends. Some things you just don't want family to know. ;)<BR/><BR/>You're the coolest and nicest rocket scientist I know. :Dlittle alyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06526474330761827118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661609629555743722.post-4849397190366900632008-10-19T01:10:00.000-04:002008-10-19T01:10:00.000-04:00Good for you!! You're doing this for all the right...Good for you!! You're doing this for all the right reasons! I've been trying to get me mom to move in with us since my dad's stroke in 2003, but she's one of those "I don't want to be a burden" people (aka Jewish mother). Not realizing that she's a bigger burden to us by living alone and us worrying all the time.<BR/><BR/>Your FIL is a lucky man to have you guys.<BR/><BR/>And, way jealous of the great house you're gonna have when it's all over!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08250972350798310498noreply@blogger.com